The definition of forgiveness is the act of excusing a mistake or offense. It means wiping the slate clean, never to have that transgression brought up again. I recently found myself on the receiving end of forgiveness (to be quite honest for some pretty serious offenses). Not long after that, it was brought to my attention that I have failed to forgive someone in my past who hurt my wife and a dear friend of mine quite deeply. From prior experience, I knew she was a lying manipulative wench, but hurting those I love was the last straw. This blog is about my thoughts on forgiveness.
The difference in my mind between me and the person I mentioned earlier is that I sought forgiveness with no expectation of receiving it. The other person to this day does not see that she has done any wrong. This causes me to raise the following two questions:
Is forgiveness only to be given if it is sought?
Is it a gift to be given even if the person does not even realise they have committed an offense?
To me it seems like it is the former but should be the latter. Forgiveness is for the benefit of the giver not the receiver. I would love to hear your thoughts on this.